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 Lust versus Love

Lust is about satisfaction. Love is about sacrificing, serving,
surrendering, sharing, supporting, and even suffering for others.

Love is an emotion of a strong affection and personal attachment. Love
is also a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and
affection --"the unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of
another". Love may also be described as actions towards others or
oneself based on compassion, or as actions towards others based on
affection.
Lust is an emotion or feeling of intense desire in the body. The lust
can take any form such as the lust for knowledge, the lust for sex or
the lust for power. It can take such mundane forms as the lust for
food as distinct from the need for food. Lust is a powerful psychic
force producing intense wanting for an object, or circumstance
fulfilling the emotion.

SIGNS OF LOVE

    You want to spend quality time together other than sex.
    You get lost in conversations and forget about the hours passing.
    You want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy.
    He or she motivates you to be a better person.
    You want to get to meet his or her family and friends.

SIGNS OF LUST

    You're totally focused on a person's looks and body.
    You're interested in having sex, but not in having conversations.
    You'd rather keep the relationship on a fantasy level, not discuss
real feelings.
    You want to leave soon after sex rather than cuddling or breakfast
the next morning.
    You are lovers, but not friends.

WHAT IS LOVE?
"To experience the pure essence of unconditional love is our basic
purpose for coming to earth," writes Marianne Williamson in A Return
to Love. "We experience it as kindness, giving, compassion, peace,
joy, acceptance, non-judgment, joining, intimacy." Love is not
neediness. "I love you because I need you!" -- WRONG! "I need you
because I love you!" -- RIGHT!

5 tenets of a true #relationship 1 Stay faithful. 2 Make her/ him feel wanted 3 Respect your partner. 4 Don't flirt with others 5 Make time
— James Rudyanto (@translatorbali) March 12, 2014

Why is love so hard to find? It's simply because :
1) we do not love ourselves 
2) we have not healed the wounds of past love relationships, especially the persons we get involved with in the romance have unfinished business with their fathers ,or simply put, detest their fathers , thus they may tend to have us objectified to vent out their revenge for their hatred towards their biological fathers upon us and this kind of persons most likely incline to be bipolar, legalistic,unforgiving, insensitive towards the feelings of their  boyfriends or girlfriends

3 )misogynic men towards women 
4) misandric women  towards men
  

I do agree on one of the tweets posted by Ms Marianne Williamson which reads

If we're judging someone, we're wrong even if we're right.
— Marianne Williamson (@marwilliamson) February 26, 2014

 Let's not judge such kind of person nor hate her or him. Who are we anyway to judge our fellow humans beings ? we are also human beings with flaws and imperfections. 

Let's put on mercy and love 

Moral wisdom : Being a good and loving father plays an important role in forming his children's psychological development of temperaments, which later become their characters. In fact a father presumably loves his children, they, however, can not understand their father's language of love well, therefore the children tend to hate their own father. This father's language of love expressed towards his children that  may have  been misperceived by his daughters or sons may render his children loveless, insensitive towards others. As they are growing up, in most cases they won't truly believe in love.

Fathers are very important to their daughter's feminine development. Biller's research review (1971) supports that girls who had positive relationships with their fathers were more likely to have satisfying intimacies. When a mother poisons her daughter's love of her father, she is also damaging her daughter's ability to maturely love any man. The mother is programming her daughter to be her ego extension without a will of her own, and to be with her and no one else, narcisstically bound.
Although both boys and girls are greatly harmed when they are turned against a parent, the harm is often different. Studies indicate that boys suffer the most harm when the boys are stuck with mothers who express hostility towards their fathers- the source of their male identity (Kelly,1993). 

When the mother encourages her daughter to see her father as bad, this can cause an Oedipal fixation in that the daughter may be attracted to men who will mistreat her, or she may mistreat them. The daughter will also have problems with separation from the mother and have problems with attachment and abandonment with subsequent love objects.

Parental Alienation Syndrome Research

 Psychologically speaking , when a daughter hates her Father it creates a void in her that festers and breeds pain and sorrow.  Sometimes, it is years before she realizes what is actually happening to her, if it is recognized at all.  Hating a father sets up an undeclared and clandestine expedition to secure someone who, or something that, will fill the void.
 

  WHAT IS LUST?

When a daughter hates her Father it creates a void in her that festers and breeds pain and sorrow.  Sometimes, it is years before she realizes what is actually happening to her, if it is recognized at all.  Hating a father sets up an undeclared and clandestine expedition to secure someone who, or something that, will fill the void.  - See more at: http://staciaalexander.com/when-daughters-hate-their-fathers-2/#sthash.hdCIhWag.dpuf

Lust is chemistry. It is felt almost immediately when two people meet.
It usually involves flirting, touching. Something inside you goes,
"lusty" Lust involves the body. A real deterrent to pure love is
seeing ourselves only as bodies; when in reality, we are not our
bodies...we are a spiritual soul inside a physical body.
Good love will involve good sex. Good sex alone rarely involves real
pure love. The danger with lust is that men and women react to it
differently. Women "fall in love" with a good lustful encounter, men
do not. Men "fall in love" by doing for their woman.

Some valuable tips to move on 

We’ve all been hurt by another person at some time or another — we were treated badly, trust was broken, hearts were hurt.
And while this pain is normal, sometimes that pain lingers for too long. We relive the pain over and over, and have a hard time letting go.
This causes problems. It not only causes us to be unhappy, but can strain or ruin relationships, distract us from work and family and other important things, make us reluctant to open up to new things and people. We get trapped in a cycle of anger and hurt, and miss out on the beauty of life as it happens.
We need to learn to let go. We need to be able to forgive, so we can move on and be happy.

Joyce Meyer Anak Teraniaya Menjadi Hamba Tuhan

Joyce Meyer Abuse and the Miracle of Recovery

Are you ready to move on ?

Quiz on Love, Lust, or Infatuation

7 Golden Rules Of Life !!!

1st
Don't let someone become a priority in your life, when you are just an option in their life.
Relationships work best when they are balanced. There's only one, He is GOD. If you let someone become a priority in your life, you will ruin you own life, because all of your focus is just for the people who you priority, we must keep balance so our life can go on smoothly :)

2nd
Never explain yourself to anyone.
Because the person who likes you doesn't need it, and the person who doesn't like you won't believe it. In the other words,other peoples don't like to hear about you but peoples like to talk about themselves.

3rd
When you keep saying you are busy, then you are never free.
When you keep saying you have no time, then you will never have time.
When you keep saying that you will do it tomorrow, then your tomorrow will never come.
the other word is ,"Don't make Excuse"

4th
When we wake up in the morning, we have two simple choices.
Go back to sleep and dream, or wake up and chase those dreams.
Choice is yours. The other word is,"Chase your dream in your sleep or chase your dream in your life"

5th
We make them cry who care for us.
We cry for those who never care for us.
And we care for those who will never cry for us.
This is the truth of life, it's strange but true. Once you realize this, it's never too late to change. This is because people are too selfish to their own desire.

6th
Don't make promise when you are in joy.
Don't reply when you are sad.
Don't take decision when you are angry.
Think twice, act twice. The other word is "Think before you act, but don't think too much"

7th
Time is like river. You can't touch the same water twice, because the flow that has passed will never pass again. It is your decision to waste your time or not :)

Hope that this post can bless you all, have a nice day and God bless you

 T Golden rules of life